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  I have a serious problem

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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  My Name is of No Consequence

  I want to tell this elder that I do not want him studying with my son period. But I fear that that the blowback will be severe. My son wants to study with him and my wife is all in as well. Really, all relationships in my house have been strained and if I stop this study completely, it will get worse. She even said that his study would not be stopped even if some other brother is studying with him.

  How am I supposed to get around that? I am not ready to disassociate myself nor am I ready to get disfellowshipped. I still have a lot of family that are still "in" and I am just keeping up appearances at this point. It is going to be hell either way.

  I did not want to mention this, but he is my stepson. I have been his father for over half of his life. his mother would have more legal rights then me and she knows that. If I got disfellowshipped, I will probably have no legal standing to stop his study.
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  107

  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  Thank you all for the suggestions. I certainly don't see myself as a victim. I don't think like that. I'm just not sure how to handle the situation. I'm having a hard time believing that this brother is purposely striping my authority and dignity outside of my home as well as inside. But all evidence points to the contrary.

  I texted this brother last night and said that we need to talk THIS WEEK. He texted that he would get back to me. We'll see what happens.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ label licker:

  Thank you for your suggestions. The brother sold the car to my wife for our son. He didn't give it to her but she claims she got a "good deal". I am upset about it because I didn't find out until after the deal was done.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ Oubliette:

  I appreciate your suggestions. Let me ask you something: Have you ever been in this situation? Maybe you have. It is easier said than done to "grow a pair". When the whole system is against you and you have no one to talk to directly about your feelings, it is extremely difficult. Every time I put my foot down, it gets stepped on not only by my wife but by this elder as well. I could try to be a tyrant and an a-hole to my family, but would that really solve anything?
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  I will say this:

  The brother told me that he is handling some personal matters and will speak with me as soon as they are resolved. I respected that. He still has time to spend with my boy, yet he does not have 20 minutes to speak to me?
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ Pistoff:

  I know who this brother is and my family loves him and they can't understand why I feel differently.
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  107

  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ steve2:

  You are correct. My relationship with my wife is not the best at this time and I partly blame the so-called "organization" for that. I have not been out in field service for several years. I have not commented in several years. I quit the TMS a month ago and everyone is aware.

  I wish I had that "someone" to talk to; I just have this forum.
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  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
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  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ Giordano:

  My wife and I are not separated. But the fact that I am awake and she is not has taken its toll on the family arrangement, big time. He is studying with my son at his house because I told my wife that this brother is not welcomed at my house until I have a chat with him. This was over a month ago.
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  107

  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

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  @ confuzzlediam!

  My wife will not permit me to talk to him unless she is present. I would prefer to keep him out of if it as much as possible just because he is a kid and this is "adult" business. With that being said, I don't know what else to do.
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  107

  I have a serious problem

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have a serious problem that i cannot solve on my own.

  i was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point.

  i quit the tms a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it.

  1. 
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  3. 
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  My Name is of No Consequence

  I have a serious problem that I cannot solve on my own. I was born-in but am only in by a thread at this point. I quit the TMS a few weeks ago and wrote a post on it. I am no longer “spiritually strong” and have not been to a meeting in weeks. Over the last year or so, a brother and his wife have been studying with my teenage son. Things were fine for a while and I had no problem with it. Then he started making arrangements with him and his mother directly, say he was coming by at 6 for an hour then come at 6:45 and stay until 8 and sell a car to my wife for my son without me even being in the loop. There is more, but I will keep it private.

  I have become so upset over this situation that it has consumed me. I tried to reach out to this brother to make plans to meet and chat for a few minutes, but it seems like he is avoiding me now. It is almost like they have cut me out of the picture entirely and view my son as a “fatherless boy”.

  I was so upset one day that I told my wife (who is all for this “arrangement”) that this brother cannot come over anymore until I speak with him. Guess what? His mother now drops him off at his house and he has his study there.

  Over that last few weeks, I have been extremely irritable and do not know what to do about this situation. I am completely out of the loop. My wife does not care and this brother does not care. It is almost like I am disfellowshipped in their eyes.

  Am I making a big deal about this or do my feelings have some merit?